Word from the Head – 19 September 2025
Dear Parents,
As we end the third week of term the new year is in full swing, with clubs and societies up and running and all our pupils navigating the complexity of a busy school day and homework timetable. However it’s not just the girls who are having to adjust to the rhythms of the school term – the new routines, schedules and demands can leave us adults feeling overwhelmed too. Certainly I have struggled to maintain my newly re-kindled love of a good gym class – when I have had several late nights in school during the week, the last thing I want to do is go and leap up and down with some weights in a sweaty studio, even if I know it will be really good for me. Hence this week’s Wednesday Wisdom from Dr Kathy Weston of Tooled Up Education really struck a chord with me as a timely reminder of the importance of finding balance in our lives.
Dr Weston encourages us to start by reflecting on our current state. She suggests we “audit your work-life balance now by paying attention to your energy levels,” which are closely linked to sleep, exercise and nutrition. It’s not about making drastic changes, but about prioritising what we already know is important. She offers a practical Tooled Up Tip to manage ‘constructive worrying’ by writing down worries and brainstorming solutions in the evening, so they don’t keep you up at night. She also reminds us to create a clear boundary between our work life and family life, even if it’s as simple as making a conscious effort to signal a “shift from ‘worker’ to ‘present partner and parent’ at the end of the day.”
She also makes an important point of offering the same balance to our children and avoiding the very real issue of over-scheduling. I talked about this with some Year 7 parents last Friday morning while their daughters were on the Stubbers trip. The start of a new school year is exhausting and Dr Weston echoed exactly what I said to them: children “need proper, unscheduled pockets of time to cope with the exhaustion of new routines, friendships and work-loads.” Instead of rushing to fill every minute with an activity, she urges us to “relish in the last remaining days of September sunlight having family walks and talking more.” This unstructured time is crucial for their well-being.
Finally, she addresses the ever-present challenge of seeking balance in our digital lives. This was something we mentioned at our Welcome Evenings: all of us find it difficult but it is vital that we should be role models for our children in this. We teach our students in PSHE lessons and assemblies how to be “digitally discerning”, as Dr Weston puts it, and navigate the online world with confidence. However I agree with Dr Weston’s suggestion that we should also model positive digital behaviour and be vocal when we are intentionally putting our devices away. Regular readers of Word from the Head will know that there is a strict Two Screen Rule in the Hughes household: only one screen can be watched at any given moment. If the television is on then phones and other devices have to be put away; if one of them comes out then the TV is switched off or paused. We negotiated this when my son got his first mobile phone aged 11 – and he is still applying it to me as rigorously now, aged 19, as I did to him then!
Dr Weston concludes that “The final piece of the ‘balance’ puzzle is seeking and offering support. Research shows that those with strong personal and professional support networks experience lower levels of burnout. But support doesn’t only come from colleagues, it comes from friends, family, and community.” It is precisely for this reason that we are a Tooled Up school, and if you have not yet logged into their resources the joining details are included below for reference. Dr Weston’s article includes some links to their resources and ideas for balance in primary, tween and teen children – as well as for us – and, of course, we’re always here to offer advice and support when you need it.
To that end, I wish you a restful and unscheduled weekend. It looks as though we are getting the last gasp of summer on Saturday and I hope that you will be able to take advantage of it.
With best wishes,
Lindsey Hughes
Headmistress